A Bluetiful Life

Artful Approach

A few weeks ago I was introduced to the founder of Top-Notch Teams, Allison Lazicky, by Mindy Bolton of Playscriptions. During my conversation with Allison, she asked me if I would write a blog post for her site on the topic of, “Life is Bluetiful,” that would join a series she started back in September. When thinking about the topic of “Bluetiful” a play on “Beautiful” my mind spun in a thousand different directions. Life is Bluetiful in so many ways, in the funny, in the serious, in the sad, in the joyful. I was eventually able to slow down the spinning mind, put pen to paper (or rather hands to keys), and wrote the following. I hope you enjoy. I hope it causes you to ask when your life is Bluetiful. Head over to Top-Notch Teams’ website to read the other posts in this series.

My Life is Bluetiful when my crazy, frizzy, curly, auburn hair behaves. My Life is Bluetiful when I have skies of my feet or a racquet in my hand. My Life is Bluetiful both when I have the house to myself and when I am in a home filled with people. My Life is Bluetiful when above 2,000 feet or in the middle of a lake. My Life is Bluetiful when cheese fills my fridge. My Life is Bluetiful when hiding in the garden. My Life if Bluetiful when sitting in front of a fire on a cold winter’s night with family and pup by my side. My Life is Bluetiful when a book is in hand that I refuse to put down. My Life is Bluetiful when I survived a summer’s day without getting burnt. My Life is Bluetiful when I remember the password for my account. My Life is Bluetiful when sleeping with the windows open for the first time in the spring.

I have spent my life seeking the Good, the True, and the Beautiful… um, I mean Bluetiful, and I seek is still.  As I reflect now, all of life is Bluetiful. The messy and the organized. The imperfect moments and the near perfect joys. The anticipation and the arrival.

Life is Bluetiful when a wave of peace washes over us in the middle of a storm. Life is Bluetiful when a wall of sound hits us while at a choir concert, better yet, when we realize we are that wall of sound. Life is Bluetiful when we are allowed to have recess as an adult, to play and laugh so hard our stomach and face hurt for moments long after the silence has returned. Life is Bluetiful when we recognize the gift of a moment while still in the moment. Life is Bluetiful when we are seen and heard for who we are and striving to become. Life is Bluetiful always when we are seeking it, when we are ignoring it, and when we despise it.

A Bluetiful life is one well lived, filled with family, friends, purpose. When sounds of music, laughter, and the voices of those we care for fill our hears and our hearts with joy. When looking at the sky, or the ocean, or in our loved one’s eyes, life is Bluetiful.

 

You can follow Allison’s work by visiting:

Top-Notch Teams’ Website is https://www.top-notchteams.com

Top-Notch Teams’ Facebook is https://www.facebook.com/topnotchteams

 

As well as Mindy’s work:

Playscriptions’ Website is https://www.playscriptions.com

Playscriptions’ Facebook is https://www.facebook.com/yespleaseandthankyou/

To Live a Dynamic Life

Personal Story of Dementia

You cannot speak wishes of a Happy New Year without resolutions coming to mind. They are linked and inspire a sense of a better life each person is seeking to create for themselves and their family. These resolutions frequently are about appearance. They are made with hopes of having a house that is organized like that of a magazine shoot (or would it be more relatable to say Pinterest board), and they are made so that we, our bodies, might look a specific way, from the way our hair is done, to the percentage of body fat we carry. It is about beauty, and all too often outer beauty, social status beauty. While there is nothing wrong with wanting an organized home or a healthy mind and body, in fact, they are quite necessary, our resolutions fall short and put back up on that pedestal, youth and the young. These resolutions come with the impression that we will live a full year, and that life is still young and many decades are in front of us. This is not always true. As I have shared my thoughts on resolutions with others, their responses only dig the anchor deeper, as I am told I am, “acting a bit like a crotchety old lady trying to beat up the world we live in today.” We see resolutions, growth, and health only for those who are still living within the first 2/3rds of life. Never have I heard anyone ask someone who is older if they have made their New Year’s resolutions yet. Or, ask them how the resolutions are going at the end of January when most of us have long given up or moved on from our own. Some of this could be that with the wisdom only gained through age, they are beyond resolutions and don’t need them. What I think has greater accuracy is that this is yet another way our society has put a negative image on aging, a word that is moving closer and closer to the “Words That Are Inappropriate To Use” list. There are thoughts that because someone is old, they cannot make resolutions for themselves, they could not possibly think it is realistic to grow and improve their lives all because they could not keep up with the latest fitness and diet trends. We have too many negative images of aging for me to believe our society thinks otherwise.
While I am in fact young, and on paper, I do have decades to live, I work with many who are not young or don’t know how many more breaths they will take, and don’t know if they will make it to tomorrow. Some of these individuals have given up on life, others are trying their best to get up each day with a smile. When I have asked the question, “Do you make New Year’s resolutions?” I find they don’t make resolutions about having the perfect home or the perfect body. They make resolutions about trying to improve their outlook on life, or staying active, social, and staying connected with family, or finding ways they can continue to learn. In listening to their resolutions we learn how to find joy in the imperfection of life, and how to have hope through fear and the unknowns. So, as loved ones, as caregivers, as medical and non-medical professionals, as therapists, as creative arts therapists, artists, and community members, our resolutions this year, and all the years to come should be this:

This year my resolution is to live a joyful, dynamic, peaceful, creative, and giving life. To help others do the same regardless of their specific challenges, dreams, age, or time left on this earth. Regardless of the presence of dementia, or the struggles of caregiving. We can do this. To live a life seeking the beauty and the good in one another, and in ourselves. Our resolution is to love, to be hopeful, to seek the Truth. To judge less and dream more.

This resolution is ageless and looks more at the beauty of our world, our inner self, our society, of life itself, and less at the appearance of our home and our bodies. Here is to another year! Another Breath! Another moment to live our dynamic lives.

 

As always, we are a community of diverse individuals, each one of us has our own experiences with aging, health, community, and dementia. This is my experience and just one experience. If you would like to share your story of dementia with us by writing a blog post, commenting, or sharing directly with me your experience please feel free to do so. The more people that speak up and share, the greater our knowledge can expand.